Grief

Noun ~ a cause or occasion of keen distress or sorrow caused by someone’s death
Idiom ~ to suffer disappointment, misfortune, or other trouble: fail:

As this year comes to end in a few short days, I find myself reflecting on all that
has transpired this year, the loss of a very dear friend, a mother whose child is very ill and the hope of becoming part of a new clinical trial unsuccessful. Learning to let go of choices made that cannot be changed. Grief is inevitable the death of a loved one I believe is one of the hardest things to accept. For me I was very lucky to have several months to say good-bye and enjoy Sandy’s company. Many do not get this opportunity because their loved ones died suddenly and unexpectedly. As I sat with Sandy at the end of her journey, I noticed many friends and family didn’t know what to do or say. So, this blog entry will focus on how you can help someone who has lost a loved one.

Below are some tips on ways to help someone who just lost a loved one.

• Listen: those grieving want to be heard, let them tell you about their loss. Let them tell you what they need. Never presume you know what may be best.
• Share: If you have a beautiful memory of their loved one share it, they want to hear fond memories of their loved ones. It is said that laughter is not appropriate at a time of loss. I believe that a friendly smile or laugh can ease the pain remind them of how their loved one would make others smile or laugh.
• Be there: Don’t stay away because you’re afraid that you may say or do the wrong thing. Your physical presence lets them know your there for them.
• Be patient: grief takes time and is different for everyone, don’t rush them, and allow them to share their memories and feelings.
• Remember: The first year is typically the hardest, share those special dates, birthdays, anniversaries, holidays, date of their death. It won’t be easy; their life is forever changed and will continue to change as they journey through their grief. The healing process will happen gradually, the loss however always remains.

“The only cure for grief is to grieve” Earl Grollman


Sandy you are missed everyday

Insecurities

From Wikipedia:
Emotional security ~ is the measure of the stability of an individuals emotional state. Emotional insecurity or simply insecurity is a feeling of
general unease or nervousness that may be triggered by perceiving of oneself to be vulnerable or inferior in some, or a sense of vulnerability or instability which threatens one’s self-image or ego.

My insecurities those deep wounds I have overcome have become some of my greatest gifts. When I understood my insecurity and what fueled it, I was on my way to finding my true passion in life. While insecurities will affect everyone differently I believe that the greater the insecurity the greater the fear or isolation it can have on an individuals self-image or ego. Thoughts to ponder:

Some of the biggest insecurities many people deal with:

• Finding success.
• Finding their perfect mate.
• How one is perceived.

To overcome insecurity you need to take the steps needed for change:

• Take responsibility for your actions.
• Capitalize on your strengths, skills, and attributes.
• Be willing to put yourself in a vulnerable position.
• Take risks.
• Believe in yourself.
• Look at your behavior and make necessary changes.

What effects can insecurity have on you?

• Difficulty maintaining healthy long-lasting relationships.
• Difficulty maintaining friendships because of a defensive attitude.
• Passed over for promotions.
• Difficulty in meeting new people.
• Be perceived as snobby or self–centered.
• Feelings of paranoia.

Someone who has had a great impact on my life shared with me:
Rikki Rogers Quote “Strength doesn’t come from what you can do. It comes from overcoming the things you once thought you couldn’t”

For things to change we need to change ~ check out my website ~
Denverhealing.com ~ Have you suffered enough and ready for change?
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The truth will set you free

My journey of healing my past has opened so many new doors while closing those doors that were no longer beneficial to my well-being.
I have realized that while I am sharing my journey with other individuals, new doors of opportunity are always opening. The greatest is the ability to share my steps of healing with another person who is going through that same pain.

Here is where I started:

As a Christian, my first step was to let go and let God. I always wanted to be in control and do it my way… It wasn’t working. After so many years of suffering and keeping this secret, I prayed: God please open those doors which I have not been able to and close those doors that have been my greatest obstacles. I could no longer fake it, pretend everything was okay; I was going to have to be genuine. If I expected God to use me to help other people. I knew that I was going to have to be honest and share the truth ~ I would learn that this would set me free.
These steps are not new many people have shared these. We just have to get in touch with them and apply them to our journey of healing.

Feelings ~ This was very hard for me it would open doors for people to judge me, then I remembered no one would judge me harder than I have judged myself. There is a quote “people who hide their feelings usually care the most” I am learning and seeing how very true this is, when we have suffered a deep pain, we tend to show so much more compassion, we know how they may be feeling, we care. So, open your heart so you can have an impact of the lives of others. Share your story and feelings.

Failure ~ I couldn’t go back and change the results of my choice. It was final and nothing was going to make this right. I failed plain and simple. What I needed to learn was that although I had failed, I could forgive myself, it would take many years, for me to succeed at this, I knew God forgave me it, and now I forgave myself. The truth had set me free. We all will fail we just need to remember to learn and grow from our experiences and forgive ourselves. Let the truth set you free.

Faults ~ we all have them, we are not perfect and not everyone is going to like us. We are all a work in progress so be honest, humble, and admit you have faults. Our failures can help make a difference in peoples lives.

Fear ~ False Evidence Appearing Real ~ the real reason so many of us hide the truth, we hold it in and make ourselves miserable, it doesn’t help you or anyone else. It affects our Autonomic Nervous System (ANS). * When we learn to share our fears two things happen, it reduces your level of fear and it encourages the other person. You get healing and they get healing.
Our perception Influences our (ANS) when we are free from fear, we are no longer in that “flight or flight” we can experience that peace within us which is so much better for our well-being.

Autonomic Nervous System

Parasympathetic
Safety response
Maintains Homeostasis
Prevents sympathetic functions
Supports immune system
Supports digestive system
Supports Problem-solving

VS

Sympathetic
Stress response
Fight or Flight
Suppresses digestive system
Suppresses reproductive system
Decreased problem solving
Relies on preprogrammed responses

Robin Korth's "my Naked Truth"

This article is a great reminder to love who you are ~ Enjoy

Naked, I stood at the closet doors with the lights on and made myself ready. I took a deep breath and positioned the mirrors so I could see all of me. I consciously worked to remove my self-believed inner image. I opened my eyes and looked very carefully at my body. And my heart lurched at the truth: I am not a young woman anymore. I am a woman well-lived. My body tells of all the years she has carried my spirit through life.

I am a 59-year-old woman in great health and in good physical shape. I stand five-feet, nine-inches tall and weigh 135 pounds. I wear a size six in both jeans and panties, and my breasts are nowhere near my navel. In fact, they still struggle to make it full-up in a B-cup bra. My thighs are no longer velvet and my buttocks have dimples. My upper arms wobble a bit and my skin shows the marks of the sun. There is a softness around my waist that is no longer perfectly taut, and the pout of my abdomen attests to a c-section that took its bikini flatness -- but gave me a son.

Why this brutal scrutiny of myself? It was time to counter the damage of my culture, my own soft-held fear and to pour warm love on my own soul. It was time to claim every mark and not-perfect inch of my own body -- a body that had been called "too wrinkled" by a man who was fetched by my energy and my mind, but did not like the bare truth of me. His name was Dave and he was 55 years old.

We met on a dating site. Dave was interesting, gentlemanly and bright. He held my hand and toured with me on long bicycle rides. He drove many miles to come to my door. He made meals for us both and ruffled my dog's happy head. I was enticed and longed for the full knowing of this man. And so, we planned a weekend together. That's when things got confusing, unspoken and just-not-quite there. We went to bed in a couple's way -- unclothed and touching -- all parts near. Kisses were shared and sleep came in hugs. I attempted more intimacy throughout the weekend and was deterred each time.

On Monday evening over the phone, I asked this man who had shared my bed for three nights running why we had not made love. "Your body is too wrinkly," he said without a pause. "I have spoiled myself over the years with young women. I just can't get excited with you. I love your energy and your laughter. I like your head and your heart. But, I just can't deal with your body."

I was stunned. The hurt would come later. I asked him slowly and carefully if he found my body hard to look at. He said yes. "So, this means seeing me naked was troublesome to you?" I asked. He told me he had just looked away. And when the lights were out, he pretended my body was younger -- that I was younger. My breath came deep and full as I processed this information. My face blazed as I felt embarrassed and shamed by memories of my easy nakedness with him in days just passed.

We talked for some time more, my head reeling at the content of the conversation. He spoke of special stockings and clothing that would "hide" my years. He blithely told me he loved "little black dresses" and strappy shoes. He said my hair was not long and flowing as he preferred, but that was okay because it was "cool looking." I felt like a Barbie Doll on acid as I listened to this man. He was totally oblivious to the viciousness of his words. He had turned me into an object to be dressed and positioned to provide satisfaction for his ideas of what female sexual perfection should be.

He explained that now that I knew what was required, we could have a great time in the bedroom. I told him no. I would not hide from my own body. I would not wear outfits to make my body more "tolerable." I would not undress in the dark or shower with the bathroom door closed. I would not diminish myself for him -- or for anyone. My body is beautiful and it goes along with my mind and my heart.

When I told Dave that I never wanted to see or hear from him again, he was confused and complained that I was making a big deal out of nothing. He whined that I had taken a small part of our relationship and made it a major event. I didn't even want to try to explain the hurt and the horror that he had inflicted upon me. I actually felt sickly sorry for this man as I hung up the phone. It was after this call that I went to the bedroom and gently stripped off my clothes.

As I looked in the mirror -- clear-eyed and brave -- I claimed every inch of my body with love, honor and deep care. This body is me. She has held my soul and carried my heart for all of my days. Each wrinkle and imperfection is a badge of my living and of my giving of life. With tears in my eyes, I hugged myself close. I said thank you to God for the gift of my body and my life. And I said thank you to a sad man named Dave for reminding me of how precious it all is.

Robin Korth enjoys interactions with her readers. Feel free to contact her at info@robininyourface.com or on Facebook.

Let our hearts be broken

I believe that the beautiful gift of true love happens when our hearts have been broken.

We can all share stories of our first true love, that incredible feeling of your heart racing when he or she is near. The smile that melts your heart and the thought of him or her not being with you leaves you watching the time until you are together again. You have created a world that belongs only to the two of you and nothing around you matters except that you are together. For a lucky few that first true love is there only true love as they have spent a lifetime together “until death do us part” at the end however their heart will also be broken and they too will realize the beautiful gift of true love. For many that first true love experience, which did not last a lifetime, can hurt and rip you heart to pieces. What is forgotten in the pain from our broken hearts is that each relationship always has a purpose. Each circumstance is different for everyone as to why his or her relationship ended, as is the level of pain associated with that first broken heart.

As I continue on my journey of healing my past, I am thankful today for the experience of my first broken heart. It was a beautiful beginning to learning how powerful the gift of giving is to each other. I learned that love was not about taking from one or the other it was about giving to each other. True love can at times mean letting someone go “to let them spread their wings and fly” even if hurts. We make choices that at the time seem like they are the best choices only to realize the choice had devastating results. I have also come to realize that I must take responsibility for my behavior in the past, present, and forgive those who have hurt me both in the past and present. This genuine forgiveness allows my energy to shift from a negative energy to a positive energy allowing for healing and resolution.

This journey has had some extraordinary outcomes as I have re-connected with people from my past that I feared would judge me only to realize that even if they had (they didn’t) nobody can judge us harder than we judge ourselves.

I encourage you to take the steps necessary to heal your past so it will not mess up the present.

To new beginnings and happy endings.

COURAGE

Quality of being fearless; brave; bold; to act in accordance with one’s
belief especially in spite of criticism.

Part of Courage is the word “rage” which has several different meanings
I am looking at the meaning: “A burning desire; a passion” which can
move you ahead into new territory and recreate a better you.

It has been said that you need to heal your past so it won’t mess up your present. I have recently begun that journey into my past, which has taken me many years to confront. The FEAR~ “False Evident Appearing Real” prevented me from opening that door. So many questions kept coming to mind, what would people think. How will I be judged? Is it worth it? The answers I realized were:

1. I believe Anthony Hopkins sums it up best ~ It’s none of my business
what people say of me and think of me.
2. No one can judge me harder than I have judged myself.
3. Yes, so worth it.

So, I had to bite the bullet and take a chance. My outcome has been an
Incredible healing journey. Yes, there were some obstacles and roadblocks which I let my creative intelligence guide me to solutions.
In spite of some resistance on my part I have taken the leap of faith and
moving forward in making, my dreams come true.

Find the courage to let go of those past mistakes and misgivings and reach for that brass ring.

Thoughts become things choose the good ones.

Growth

Definition: Gradual development; increases in size, weight, or power;
something that has grown.

A word telling us that we have learned from our experiences. A word to remind us that more challenges may be ahead giving us the opportunity to continue to grow.

Ask yourself, have you allowed yourself to sit complacently in your comfort zone and vegetate? Are you facing challenges that are testing your ability to see clearly? Is your past preventing you from turning those stumbling blocks into stepping-stones?

Well, the greatest thing about growth is that you have a choice on how you handle it. Resist and the rug can still be pulled out from under you.
Embrace it and be ready for the opportunity to experience bigger and better things.

Remember there are no mistakes, just opportunities to learn and GROW!

When you question where you are going in life

Below are a few points to ponder.

*Life isn't fair but it is still good.
*Make peace with the past so it won't mess up the present.
*However, good or bad a situation is it will change.
*Each night before you go to bed complete the following statements
"I am thankful for...."
"Today I accomplished..."

Believe that best is yet to come.

Will you be the person who makes things happen or watches things happen in this New Year? Make a plan for a new and successful 2014. Determine what it is you want. What makes you happy? What are you passionate about? What would your dream lifestyle be? Then ask yourself the following questions. How will achieving this benefit me? What challenges may delay me from achieving this? What specific actions will I take to achieve this? Do something everyday to move towards your success ~ Remember, success is defined as “the achievement of something desired, planned, or attempted.” Don’t confuse success with wealth or fame. Do not allow the expectations of other to define success for you. How you define, success will have a significant impact on how you use your time and live your life. There is no one-size-fits-all definition for success. Everyone has his own unique description for success ~ embrace your definition it will be worth it. To a happy and healthy New Year! “If you do not change your direction, you will end up exactly where you are headed.” Ancient Chinese proverb

My take on the most important key’s to manifesting

Believe, if you do not truly believe you will receive what you are asking for ~ you are sending mixed messages.  Take a moment and look at what is happening in your life, now think about what your are focusing on, more than likely your life has become what you have focused your attention on.  Your experience is directly related at what you are looking for.
Examples:
*If you are running late for any reason you begin to focus on what may make you even later, traffic, roadblocks, accident, etc., missing the fact that everything can go smoothly and you actually arrive on time or early.
*When you bought your car you focused on what you wanted possibly thinking you haven’t seen very many in that color or style, only to see after that you noticed several of the same color and style.  Because you were not looking for it, your mind didn’t feed you the information, only after you bought it did you start looking for how many other cars were like yours allowing your mind to start looking for them.
You won’t experience miracles unless you are open to the fact that they exist.  And you won’t make your dreams come true unless you believe it is possible.

Be Specific, Remember that what you focus on are the instructions you are giving to your mind.  Remember there is a huge difference between being committed and being interested in your goals.  When you are committed, you will do whatever it takes to achieve your goal.  When you are interested, you probably will not be as specific on your goals as when you are committed.  So be very specific, paint a picture in your mind that is so vivid that you mind will know exactly what you are focusing on.  Again, going back to my take on this goals/dreams should influence people’s lives and bring value to our world no matter how big or small it is, at the end of the day, you touched someone else’s life.  Don’t focus entirely on the money focus on the value.  Einstein said this:
“Try Not To Become A Man Of Success, But Rather Try To Become A Man Of Value”

Action, Yep, you have to take action.  Ask yourself what can I do, how can I do this.  Is it making a list, visiting a website, attending a seminar, or going to a meet up group.  Think of it as physics ~ something that is set in motion stays in motion.  It starts with that first step.  Find other people, who have what you want, learn from them.  Again, focus on the value, paint that vivid picture in your mind so your life will become the life you want.
Once you have to combination to the lock on your dream, you can open the door.

Worldviews

We all have them, however, many of us may not realize how they affect our lives.  The truth is that our worldviews impact our confidence, success, happiness, and our peace of mind.
Everything we think about impacts our worldview ~ life, death, money, relationships, etc.
We all have free will to believe anything we want or not to believe anything at all.  We can live in the past or choose to create a new and brighter future.  If you are ready to change your future, you first have to change your thoughts/mind.
You have to stop playing those old tapes and create a new view of yourself, your dreams, and your purpose in life.
The first step is always the hardest ~ with difficulty comes opportunity ~ embrace the challenge ~ choose to live a good life.
Start paving your future.  It could be a path towards discovery, career, romance, or destination. It may just be that path away from our old ways.

For a free 15-minute consultation to learn how to create a new path call 303-919-8876.

Happy Easter

People are often unreasonable and self-centered. 
            Forgive them anyway.
If your are kind, people many accuse you of ulterior motives.
            Be Kind anyway.
If you are honest, people may cheat you.
           Be honest anyway.

If you find happiness, people may be jealous.
           Be happy anyway.
The good you do today may be forgotten tomorrow.
          Do good anyway.
Give the world the best you have and it may never be enough.
             Give your best anyway.
For you see, in the end, it is between you and God.
              It way never between you and them anyway.

                                                              ~ Mother Theresa

Happy Easter!

NOW

The word now is used to strengthen a command.  Like take charge of your life and do it NOW.  We have a choice and that is to take the steps now to create our happiness.  Don’t live in the past, learn from the past.   I remember a quote unfortunately not the person my apologies in not being able to acknowledge this person.

“Don’t carry your past mistakes around with you.  Instead, place them under your feet and use them as stepping stones.” Live now.

Now is really all we have embrace it.  Do not procrastinate and put off until tomorrow when you can do it now.

I say this frequently and family and friends roll their eyes so here it is:
Learn to see opportunity in the moment knowing that life is unfolding exactly as it should.  What can seem like our worst disaster can actually become the best thing that ever happened to us.  Be in the moment.

Thank you to my dear friends Tracy & Kim what a week and what great moments.

To those of you that were in my life for only moments thank you.

NOW go and enjoy your day.

p.s. did I say it enough? Do it now!

Creating a Life Plan

Developing a plan for your life

I always enjoy when a new year begins it allows me to review the past year and make necessary changes to ensure that I am living my life plan.

So get started, the first step is to develop a life plan where you formulate everything you want out of life.  Because as Jim Rohn has said:

“If you don’t design your own life plan, chances are you’ll
fall into someone else’s plan.  And guess what they
have planned for you?  Not much.”
                                                                            Jim Rohn

What do you want?

Career ~ Ask yourself is the type of work you would choose?  If yes great, if not do you a have a clear plan?  What steps will you take to change your career?  Make a list of steps needed to get to your desired outcome.  Action will be required and you may have to adjust your results based on the approach.  When you keep improving your approach and not give up is when change happens.

Relationships  ~ How would you define your perfect relationship?  Make a list of everything you want in your relationship.  Look at past relationship what worked what didn’t.  What changes need to be made?

Home ~ If you were given a magic wand where would you live?  What prevents you form moving to that location?  What does your house look like how is it furnished?  Your home reflects your overall personality and should make you happy.

Creating a life Plan is a process however,  unexpected events may occur making it necessary to change your approach.  When you do this and embrace life to its fullest, take the necessary steps needed and not give up you can begin to live the life you truly desire.

How Reiki Works

The human body is made up of over 50 trillion cells. Each cell contains
omniscient wisdom and is connected to the universe and every living
 thing within it. A good analogy is to think of the universe as a huge
ocean of water. Every living thing within that ocean is like a tiny

droplet. Together these droplets make up and are part of
Reiki the universal life force.

Reiki is part of our genetic structure. A built intelligence that energises
the mind body and spirit. Reiki stimulates growth, health, life and healing.
When it is freely allowed to flow around the body it can keep us alive
 and healthy many years.

Unfortunately, bad habits and poor choices result in the flow of Reiki
 being stifled.  Through neglect and ignorance we abuse this vital
component of life.

When the mind body and spirit are in harmony the biological intelligence
 that governs the body’s resources and allows it to heal itself and function
correctly are intensified. Reiki is the key that unlocks the body’s optimum
capabilities. There are seven main energy centers in the body that control
the flow of the universal life force. They are called the Chakras.  Each chakra
 is responsible for supplying energy to specific parts of the body. When they

are blocked or clogged the body may become sick and the flow of energy is slowed.

A full Reiki treatment reopens the chakras and re-balances the flow of the universal life

force around the body. A person treatments schedule will vary. Reiki will stimulate the body’s 

immune system and natural healing abilities. Normally the body will begin by

cleansing itself of toxins. As the toxins are removed, the body becomes re-balanced 

and the healing process can begin.

The holidays are fast approaching which for many means added stresses.

Suggestions on how to keep your holidays filled with joy.

• Keep it Simple.

• Make a budget and stick to it.

• Create a shopping list now and start purchasing items each time you shop.

• Review your holiday traditions with your family ~ which ones to keep and new ones to make.

• Take your time in decorating do a little at a time.

• Don’t make mountains out of molehills; who cares if the tree is not perfect, let the children put all the ornaments on the bottom and enjoy their enthusiasm for a job well done.

Don’t complicate the holidays.  Simply take a moment and focus on what you truly want for this holiday season.  By doing this you have taken, the first step in creating a stress free holiday season.


Happy Holidays!!

Healing your emotional baggage

I believe that our emotional baggage comes from an addictive behavior.  Therefore, we need to look at past behavior and patterns to identify the initial sensitizing event that resulted in:

Belief ~ Emotion ~ Behavior ~ Results

Identify the event that lead to the “result” is the first step to healing.  Healing means to become comfortable with yourself, feeling accepted, confident, empowered and valuable for whom you are.  This is achieved through a range of modalities of skilled therapy, to provide you with overall wellness and empowerment to become the person you want to be.

Is it easy to do?  Is it easy not to do?

The answer is yes to both questions.  Will it be easy?  Probably not, it takes time hard work and commitment.  It is not enough to know what the tools are; we need to apply the appropriate tools daily to achieve our desired outcome.  No tool is valuable if you leave it in the toolbox it is the ability to apply the tool that leads to your long-term changes.  It comes down to you to make the necessary changes.

Remember

What we think about we bring about.
thoughts become things choose the good ones.

CHOICES

Using your mind to create new choices to improve your life allows you the ability to meet the greatest person you will ever know YOU!  .  When you change your thoughts, you can begin to create new choices to improve your life

As Certified Medical Support Hypnotherapist, NLP Practitioner, and Reiki Master, I have been able to study how language affects the mind.  By helping people learn how to use their mind to overcome obstacles creates the beginning for new possibilities.  Only you can truly know what is right for you through visualization, new thought patterns, letting go of the past, old patterns can be broken and new patters established.

Stress reduction/relaxation benefits your health in many ways, helping one heal the body by activating the immune system.  Hypnosis is safe, pleasant, and natural (yet altered) state of awareness.

I specialize in the following:

• Medical Support and Pain Control
• PTSD
• Stress and Anxiety Relief
• Trauma Reversal, Grief or Loss
• Personal Growth Workshops
• Phobia Reversal
• Past Life Regression
• Goal Setting.

Thoughts becomes things choose the good ones!

Call for your free consultation 303-919-8876

INSPIRATION

Definition: Divine influence or action on a person believed to qualify him or her to receive and communicate sacred revelation; the action or power of moving the intellect or emotions; the act of influencing or suggesting opinions; the act of drawing in; specifically; the drawing of air into the lungs; the quality or state of being inspired

Are you living the life you want? 

Does each day bring you joy?  

If not take time to make positive changes in your life.  Seek new direction and be open to new ideas.  If you feel resistance take a walk, clear your mind. Only you know what is truly right for you.  Listen to your heart and begin making the changes to live your dreams.

For things to change you need to change.


Gods blessings.